- Last Updated: 11:36 PM, April 28, 2012
- Posted: 8:03 PM, April 28, 2012
I’m considering going on a date with this guy, but he’s — wait for it — vegan. Am I total bitch for thinking vegan guys are lame?
Hmm. I don’t think I could trust a man who doesn’t eat red meat! I mean, for men, isn’t it their animalistic nature to crave red meat? I don’t know. I wouldn’t be able to do it, either. Especially if you’re a carnivore yourself.
Look, one of my best friends is vegan, and I give her a lot of credit because it’s “clean living.” But I’m too much of a foodie to give up certain things. I mean, what about spaghetti and meatballs with sweet Italian sausage? There is no vegan substitute! I don’t care what anyone says, it will ever taste the same!
My boyfriend and I took his kids to a vegan restaurant on Saturday. We thought we were setting a good example by teaching them “clean eating” habits. Vomit in my mouth. It was horrible. I got the vegan “cheesesteak” and let me just tell you, that is not what a cheesesteak should ever, ever taste like. And those little girls, they gave it a chance and were troopers, but it was definitely put on the “never again” list. No disrespect to vegans, but it’s just not for me.
But back to you: Ask yourself whether you can live like this for the rest of your life. Better yet, ask him if he could date a nonvegan. That might be your answer right there!
Despite my hesitance, I say give one date a shot. Tell him to take you to the best vegan restaurant — and let him order. Either way, it’ll be an experience. He might win you over with his charming personality and good looks — despite the tofurky.
I’ve heard that going to a movie is a bad first-date idea because you can’t talk to each other. When does it become acceptable? Is the second date OK? And what are some more out-of-the-box first-date ideas?
First dates are always awkward because you don’t really know each other yet. So while some people say movies are antisocial, I actually disagree. In fact, I think they can be a great ice breaker. Sure, you’ll likely sit there in silence for 90 minutes, but it’ll give you something to talk about over dinner and therefore make segueing into talking about yourself a little less awkward. Not to mention that if you’re attracted to each other, the physical chemistry will only grow as you sit side by side in a dark theater. And if you’re not attracted to him, well, at least you’re getting to see a movie out of it!
The point of a first date is to determine whether you’re compatible. So whatever you plan, it should both represent who you are, and what you’re looking for in a partner.
If you like desserts, go to Serendipity on the Upper East Side. If you both love pizza, go to Co. and split a few different personal pies. (The Stracciatella and the Popeye pies are insane!) Are you both artists? Take a drawing class and attempt to draw each other! It’ll give you a true sense of how someone sees you. And if you guys really did end up building your life together, how cool would it be to have that as a reminder of your first date?
So consider your common interests, and suggest a plan that reflects them. It’ll show that you have a vested interest in getting to know him better.